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I agree.... My wife herself was abused by her mother, she was hit with wooden cooking utensils and tree sticks. My wife has scars on her back that verify her tales to me. It looks just as if she was whipped. WHen I met her she told me these things and it scared me to think that we may have children and how would she be with them? I oput thosefears to rest after we had our first child. She was so wonderfully gentle with him as she was with me. She treated both of us like we were precious. She never hurt him not even a little. She was so careful with everything about him.

THen we had our second child and my wife changed INTO HER MOTHER. She pinched and hit our fist son quite often, she ht and pushed me around. She cursed more and more, prior to that a foul word never left my wifes lips! SHe bagan hoarding as well. At times she would ball up and cry, at other times she would rage so hard that no one even had to be in the room for her to  argue.

 She was always the "victim" and very dramatic. Nothing was ever her fault. She used high powered words like threaten, harrass and attack. When I would see the rage starting I would tell her that if she didn't stop and calm down I  would leave the room. Now she says that I alwasy said I was leaving her! That was used against me in court.

 My wife always took care of the money, she paid the bills and gave me money when I needed it. After the pregnancy I had to beg for money, then I had tell her why I needed it, and IF I got the debit card then I needed to bring the reciept to her right away! ANd by right away I mean if I went out to get gas, I had to get gas come home give her the card and reciept and THEN I could go back out. Lets say I was talking the boys in the woods for oour routine wildlife watching and I needed gas, GO TO THE GAS STATION FIRST, COME HOME give her back the card and receipt and THEN I could take the boys out. YET< in court I was the controlling one.

My wife NEVER did anything with the oldest sons school, well she did go to two conferences with teachers, his very first one and one last year when I decided that weather was just too nice to pass up the 4 day weekend and I took the boys camping.She was mad about having to go to see the teacher but she went. Other than that I was always the one in the school to pick him up for appointments, school trips, kids nights ETC. My sons school work reflected how much he and Daddy did together and what mommy did with him. Lets see one poster he made, it was about his family and what each one did.. Under mommy he wrote Watch channel 8 news , go shopping, camping. Under Daddy it was hunting, camping , fishing, hiking army navy stuff ETC.. He and I always  watched the Discovery or History channel.  In all of his school journals only one page out of about 8 journals even mentions mommy but many talked about Daddy. Yet in court, I put my recreation wants ABOVE my childrens needs!

 We are a gun family, her and I have carried a gun on our person for about 8 years, YET In court she never carried a gun and I slept with one! NEVER have I slept with a gun in my bed. in our tent while out in the wilds where there are bears YES I had a gun handy but NEVER IN MY HOUSE! At our home my guns were stored in my den, which was in my garage behind 3 lockable doors and in a locked safe! YET in court I had guns laying all about the house. NEVER

She had an affair back in 07, she told me that there was never sex involved just talking. Hmmm, Really I could never be sure and I wanted to leave but fell for her I'm sorry/crying routine and I stayed. We worked through it. That was the only time I ever packed a bagof clothes to leave her. Many times she threatened with with divorce, Yet in court  I was always telling her that I was leaving. Which made me look like I was traumatizing her and the kids! I never screamed at her or my children EVER, I did raise my voice but never screaming and yelling at her or the children, YET IN COURT........ It goes on and on...

Everything that she did she managed to  turn around and put it on me. Making me feel like I was going crazy and we were not in the same realtionship! Hell I didn't remember my own name after that day!

I left her after a rage issue with her and our 2 y/o went to domestic violence, even talked to them on the phone for  the whole weekend before going in on Monday.. Three days later I get a call from them cancelling my appointment. WHY.... Because SHE WENT TO THEM and turned it all around! When I  was there I foudn out that I had not only been hit and screamed at but That I was being financially abused as well. Then they cancel my appointments! Whats worse is they never even returned my calls after that!

How coud a MAN possibly be abused by a woman????? Never happens! Right! I mean she's so tiny and sweet!

Leet me ask you this how can  a woman of 38 not have ONE SINGLE FRIEND?  I mean lets see, I have friends that go allthe way back to  elementary school that I still do things with! Yet, she has NOT ONE SINGLE FRIEND to even go shopping with? Doesn't that say something as well?

I really think that I am crazy!

Please help me!